What NOT to Say to a Muslim Struggling with Their Mental Health

by Nurul Afiqah __ It’s ironic how difficult it can be to find comfort among religious people when religion itself is supposed to be a source of comfort. Mentally ill people seeking support from among their friends and family in the Muslim community are often met with ignorance wrapped in well-meaning, faith-inspired advice. I reached…

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Editor’s Letter: Mental Health

by Diana Rahim It’s hard being a person. Nobody truly tells you this, nor are we really encouraged to look into this fact deeply. As a society, we are uncomfortable with confronting sadness and despair, and would rather concentrate on a superficial, easy-to-understand pursuit of happiness. We are taught to meet our basic material needs,…

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For Love or Duty

by A Lady Marriage has never been on the books for me. My parents thought it unnecessary, hindering, and dooming. They firmly believe that humanity is fast approaching qiyamah (Day of Resurrection), and the time where true believers will no longer exist on the face of this Earth. No one qualifies to be our partners,…

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When Religion is a Deal Breaker

by Firqin Sumartono __ “Say, if we do get married, do I have to convert?” he asks. “Yeah, I guess.” Was my non-committal response. “But I don’t believe in it though.” “But – what would my friends and family think? People may judge!” “I understand but I don’t believe in the religion, or any for…

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My Marriage Healed Me From Toxic Parenting

by Sya Taha __ When people ask me how I got married, I say, half-laughing, that my father proposed to the man that is now my husband. I hide behind humour because it is sinister and painful to know that my father is not equal parts benevolently patriarchal and protective (as people would interpret his…

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Editor’s Letter: Marriage

by Diana Rahim _ My mum loves to point out the actor Khairudin Saharom every time he appears on TV. Each time she’ll not-so-subtly say something like “Isn’t he handsome? And he’s smart too, you know…” She even found his Instagram account and suggested that I follow him and leave a comment on a picture…

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The Price of Love

by Zubaida Ali My son has found his one true love at the age of 28. She is a delightful young university graduate, who is the perfect match for him. There is talk of marriage and the traditional ‘masuk meminang’ event that has become part of our Malay culture. With it, is the inevitable discussion…

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When Being Filial to One Means Neglecting Another

by Alia _ I have been thinking about this for a long time. If he died, would I know? If I died, would he forgive me? Where would God place me as I walk the crowded fields of judgement day? Would I be seen as a filial daughter? Or the opposite; someone who has abandoned…

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The Pure Bloods

by Hadad __ I’ve debated with myself about writing this piece. I’m not sure how it will be received by either the public or my community. I’ve been concerned with this topic for a number of years now, and as much as I want to talk about it, I also want to keep it to…

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Dari lensa minoriti Syiah di Singapura

Topik perbezaan sekte atau sektarianisme bukanlah sebuah topik yang baru saya ketahui. Saya dilahirkan dalam keluarga yang mengikuti tradisi Melayu dan juga agama Islam bermazhab Syiah di Singapura. Sebelum perkahwinan mereka, ibu bapa saya mengikut ajaran Sunni tetapi apabila mereka lebih dewasa, mereka beralih memeluk Mazhab Jaafari, iaitu mazhab dominan dalam fahaman Syiah. Walaupun kami…

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